Understanding The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACES): How Childhood Maltreatment Affects the Lifespan

According to the CDC, the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study is “one of the largest investigations ever conducted to assess associations between childhood maltreatment and later-life health and well-being.” The study, a joint study by the CDC and Kaiser-Permanente included more than 17,000 participants which began with the initial phase between 1995 and 1997.

If you are a survivor of childhood maltreatment, you know this all too well: health issues, difficulty in relationships, mistrust, depression, anxiety…the list goes on. Research is providing new insights into the mechanisms of adverse childhood experiences and new treatment approaches are available. Learn more about the ACES, which is providing awareness, education, and a foundation to support new support, funding and attention to this important topic.






Trauma: The Misunderstood Epidemic

Study of Holocaust survivors finds trauma passed on to children’s genes


New finding is clear example in humans of the theory of epigenetic inheritance: the idea that environmental factors can affect the genes of your children Read more:


October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month: You Are Precious

Breast Cancer Awareness

I was raised in a loving home, where we were taught that we are all precious and valuable. I was taught to believe in hope and service to others…that we are all intrinsically valuable….precious.

Merriam-Webster Dictionary on-line, defines “precious” as “rare and worth a lot of money; very valuable or important: too valuable or important to be wasted or used carelessly; greatly loved, valued, or important; highly esteemed or cherished.”

In serving others, I have became fascinated and in awe of the human brain. Not only does the negative in life change the brain, but research is not emerging that we can heal and change the brain….not only our beliefs, thoughts, but it’s connections and structures.

As we fly through each day, with our tasks and busy schedules, may we each embrace life and show another person that they are precious.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month: Honoring those who have fought, survived, were taken, and those left.

Back to School Resources for Parents

imagesBack-to-School Transitions: Tips for Parents


Helping Your Child Cope with Back-to-School Anxiety


ADD/ADHD Parenting Tips


ADD/ADHD and School: Helping Children with ADHD Succeed at School


Helping Children with Asperger’s Avoid the Back to School Jitters


Back to School Tips


Sticks and stones…texts and tweets

Words can be very powerful….powerful for good and powerful to destroy. As our culture changes, social media provides new avenues to connect. Unfortunately, it can also be used to destroy. Here are some thoughts about words….

“…terms in the Bible for gossip include:  backbiter, busybody, slanderer, secrets, talebearer and whisperers.  So then, a Biblical definition of gossip would be to spread rumors or secrets, speak about someone maliciously behind their back or repeat something about someone else that you have no right to repeat.” http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/gossip-bible-verses-15-helpful-quotes/#ixzz2R62LkTOZ

If it is to be spoken, it should be part of a solution, to clarify, or to edify. I love the word “edify.” According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary online, edify is a verb \ˈe-də-ˌfī\, meaning 1: archaic a. build   b. establish;  2: to instruct and improve especially in moral and religious knowledge: uplift; also: enlighten, inform Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/edify

Thus, if our words are edifying, we are using them to build or establish such as a relationship or uplifting a person. It is constructive, never destructive.

When we speak about another person, we should consider our purpose of what we say, the possible consequences to others, and the possible consequences to you. As our adolescents, tweens, and teens learn abstract thinking, it is important that they learn the moral effects of words.

Social media amplifies the effects of words. Hurtful gossip that used to be only verbal among a few people is now amplified by social media routes that escalate the damaging words in seconds through each connection’s network of “friends.” As momentum of the juicy tidbit gains, the initial information, whether based on reality or malice, grows exponentially, both in those who participate by reading, disseminating, and further changing the initial message; and the enormity of the effects upon the subject of the information.

Tips to combat gossip:

  1. Don’t believe everything you read on-line. Be discerning and teach your children how to be discerning.
  2. If information is about another person, we should consider our purpose of speaking/writing it; consider possible consequences to others; and consider possible consequences to you.
  3. Consider the purpose of the gossip. Gossip provides an avenue for connection, at the expense of the subject.
  4. Do not associate yourself with one who spreads rumors.
  5. If you are present when someone starts to talk about other people, change the subject or walk away.
  6. If you are not part of the problem or part of the solution, stay out of it.
  7. When you are the victim of gossip, confront the parties that spread the rumor. Tell your parent or boss. It is estimated that approximately 10 percent of teens that are victims of cyber bullying tell anyone.
  8. Know the facts about the culture of kids live in. Become aware of statistics about how our youth are using technology. (Check out the links at the bottom of this post.)
  9. Keep communication flowing with your children. Know their friends on-line and off.
  10. Become knowledgeable about how law enforcement agencies are combating the every-growing problem of cyber crimes, and use them as a resource to better educate yourself and your family.
  11. Educate yourself about the signs of being bullied. The culture that our children are experiencing is much different than when we were their age. Be diligent and know what your child is doing, and what is being done to them. Assume they do not know how to cope with the bullying, and be there for them, even if they have made choices that you believe are poor or contributing.

Helpful Links:

Cyberbullying | StopBullying.gov



30 Statistics about Teens and Social Networking By Taylor Thomas.  http://facebook-parental-controls-review.toptenreviews.com/30-statistics-about-teens-and-social-networking.html

Cyber Bulling Statistics. http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/cyber-bullying-statistics.html

How to Protect Your Kids from Cyber Bullying – USA.gov Blog